In this video clip (taken from the unreleased "War on the Woman-Haters")  The Covert Narcissist that had been lurking in my life disguised as a "friend" gets audacious and exposes his seething, pathological envy after indulging in an early morning ingestion of "chemical courage".

You're sure to find his audacious display of open disloyalty as shocking as personal friends and insiders have. This video offers extremely valuable insight into the degree to which Narcissistic Personalities are unable to constrain their pathological envy, especially towards those they feel most threatened by.


Covert Narcissists dangle their vulnerability in front of you as bait, just waiting for your good nurturing mothering/fathering instincts to kick in and rescue the poor little lost child they are presenting to you. We fall for the projected idealized image of the person the covert narcissist wishes they could be but knows in their hearts they are not. This is the person they NEED to convince others they are in order to foster narcissistic supply.

Beneath  the mask of a shy, vulnerable and “good person” something far more sinister lurks.

And this is what makes covert narcissism so damaging and dangerous: the nature of the disorder is such that you are brainwashed into thinking you are dealing with a human being with a morality, perhaps even a “pillar of the community”.

Forced into a split reality, one in which the person is as vulnerable and victimized as they wish you to believe and the other in which you see shadowy, fleeting signs of something else entirely: a social chameleon who would wear a completely different identity depending on who they were talking to
an underhanded way of operating in the world that ONLY those closest to them ever get a glimpse of a person whose actions RARELY match their words!

This leads to crushing feelings of frustrating isolation as you feel like you are the only one on the planet who can see this gaping disparity in the person and it’s impossible to explain to anyone not experiencing the abuse directly.

Am I just being paranoid?

This is when the self doubt sets in, you are never sure if the abuse is in fact abuse and are left with the endless agony of wondering if you are sick one and if its not in fact all your fault. This - of course - is  exactly what the covert narcissist wants you to believe.

“Maybe it really IS me that is the problem…”

Following prolonged exposure to the psychological toxic virus that is covert narcissism the agenda of wearing down the victims ego boundaries and injecting them with self doubt, anxiety and insecurity starts to work its way deeper and deeper into the mind and heart of the prey.

The victim, stuck in a maddening double bind, begins to go into a state of learned helplessness and submit to the twisted, upside-down reality tunnel of the covert narcissist and this is where the real, deep, prolonged damage can be done.

“They stood by and watched me slowly lose myself to agony and despair and did absolutely nothing to help me”

The mercy and compassion you would expect from a loved one is not there. Hell, even the mercy and compassion you would expect from a stranger on the street is not there.
They do not have any empathy for you or the destruction they cause because they feel entitled it is their RIGHT to punish and abuse the mere mortals who are lucky enough to come into their superior presence.


Because you will never even see them coming, they will flaunt their vulnerability in front of you to capitalize on your compassion, they will flatter and charm you with their “shyness” to get close enough to you that they can get their fangs deep into you.

All the flattery of the initial meeting is a phase in which they are sizing you up, quite possibly full to the brim with boiling envy and narcissistic rage that you have something that they “deserve” to be given the purpose of which is to learn your weaknesses and vulnerabilities so they can drain you dry.


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